Dramatic. . .yes lolWhat was I thinking!? I feel like in every sense of the phrase: “I lost my mind”. What single, heterosexual female, who is mostly sane, wants to willingly give up her right to date fine men. I mean, don’t you have to be insane to just say “No sexy man. . . I’m working ON ME!”?
Needless to say, I’m wavering on my decisions not to date in 2011. It’s hard being alone. It’s not even really a physical desire to have someone around; it’s the absence of mentally knowing that “He’s there.” It’s the idea that when you are with someone, no matter whether they are physically there or not, you are not alone in the world.
At the same time, I don’t really know how a relationship works when two broken people dive into it together. I think that there has to be some effort towards individual construction before someone can sweep you off your feet, but maybe that just me. I feel like "personal completion" is obviously not that serious because there are a million people in and out of relationships around me, some lasting and some not so much, but they do exist.
So does that mean, I too, should just give up my plight to “work on me” and “work on. . . us” ? “Us” being “He who shall later be found and named at a later point” and myself, as a dynamic duo of love and tackling stuff. . . together?
I really don’t know.
I think I started this thing because I felt like I needed to be alone, and somehow in my time of solitude, I would find myself and be graciously, rewarded with my Prince Charming. . . but maybe I was wrong.
I believe that it make sense for people to take time to self-evaluate and build but I don’t know if its while waiting for their special someone or by putting the whole process on hold. I also don’t think anybody else in the world cares whether they are ready or not, they just want their one. I'm starting to agree.
As for now, I will stick to my no dating in 2011, until someone causes me to change my mind. Wish me luck or sanity. . . either one works for me :)
Needless to say, I’m wavering on my decisions not to date in 2011. It’s hard being alone. It’s not even really a physical desire to have someone around; it’s the absence of mentally knowing that “He’s there.” It’s the idea that when you are with someone, no matter whether they are physically there or not, you are not alone in the world.
At the same time, I don’t really know how a relationship works when two broken people dive into it together. I think that there has to be some effort towards individual construction before someone can sweep you off your feet, but maybe that just me. I feel like "personal completion" is obviously not that serious because there are a million people in and out of relationships around me, some lasting and some not so much, but they do exist.
So does that mean, I too, should just give up my plight to “work on me” and “work on. . . us” ? “Us” being “He who shall later be found and named at a later point” and myself, as a dynamic duo of love and tackling stuff. . . together?
I really don’t know.
I think I started this thing because I felt like I needed to be alone, and somehow in my time of solitude, I would find myself and be graciously, rewarded with my Prince Charming. . . but maybe I was wrong.
I believe that it make sense for people to take time to self-evaluate and build but I don’t know if its while waiting for their special someone or by putting the whole process on hold. I also don’t think anybody else in the world cares whether they are ready or not, they just want their one. I'm starting to agree.
As for now, I will stick to my no dating in 2011, until someone causes me to change my mind. Wish me luck or sanity. . . either one works for me :)
I think you're choosing the right path. You never know...you may meet some one along the way (=
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