"Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. . . and they are both disappointed.” - Anonymous
In all of my 8,886 days, I have never heard of a woman (EVER IN MY LIFE) exclude "humor" from her list of qualities in her perfect man. I think Humor is usually right up there with attractiveness and intelligence. For the holy, it may be in the company of Faithful/God-fearing, etc. . . but believe me. . . it's up there. Yet, I've never heard a woman put a limit to that humor, i.e "Thou shalt not make jokes or play past my point of thinking it's funny."
In my short history of dating. . . and not dating, I have been hearing women express that sometimes their man plays just a little too much. This seems to spread across cultures, race, age, yet no one seems to know what or why it happens. I would speculate that it's their expression of love, comfort, "closeness" but at times it can get a little annoying.
From their perspective, I'm sure they think that we're overly emotion and "Kill-joy" prone but there has to be a way to not kill your man's spirits while still letting him know that you're not in the mood.
So, to solve this problem, I sought out to seek wisdom from one of the great philosophers of our time: Kevin Hart. (If you haven't already seen Laugh at my pain, you should probably go watch it and then finish this blog. If you have or don't care. . . feel free to continue.)
One part of Kevin Hart's act was about having a safe word to tell a woman that he was uncomfortable with what was going on in the bedroom (or with bedroom related activities). His safe word was "Pineapples." My thought, after having a conversation with your significant other, Why not create a safe word to say "I really don't feel like joking right now"? This would give your boo thang the opportunity to re-direct that energy in a different way and you the opportunity to say "Calm the hell down" without being a witch.
Honestly, I have no idea if this works but I do plan on trying it out so I'll give you all an update as soon as I know.
Happy Dating.
Think.HAPPY.Thoughts.
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