As a girl with a long list of guy friends and a short list of boyfriends, I must say, "I don't do very well with managing the silent wars between the men in my life." I know that a boyfriend is important because he is essentially a candidate for a long-standing position of husband, but does that invalidate a relationship with a man that was never in the running?
A guy friend is well. . .your friend. No different from a girl friend, just made up of a different anatomy. The guy friend, as with most girl friends, are always there in-between boyfriends. He is forced to listen to you rant about how pointless men are with no retorts. He is consistently there. There is limited drama because even if you are attracted to each other, the fact that you've never crossed the line means that you value your relationship. . . AND If you have crossed that line, you feel safe that if nothing came of it, it probably wouldn't work out anyways.
How can a girl choose between that?
I don't even know if the issue is choosing, as much as it is running constant male ego damage control for those guy friends and boyfriends that seem to be a little more "manly." In my experience, the only times guy friends are ever an issue are when: (1) your boyfriend doesn't understand the relationship, (2) both your boyfriend and guy friend are extremely territorial, or (3) one of them is dis-respectful to the other's relationship.
I feel like morally, if someone is acting like a jerk, they should get the "talk," BUT I think ultimately, if you are going to stay with the boyfriend. . . he gets the last word. This is something I would definitely like to hear your stories and opinions on. . .
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