Wife [wahyf] – ( n.) a
woman joined in marriage to a man; a woman considered in relation to her
husband; spouse.
The other day I had an epiphany
that married people may laugh at but I, a twenty-four year old woman that has
never been married, found quite enlightening. This profound moment of my life
happened when I was sitting down, just thinking about how one day I would like
to get married. As I thought of all of the wonderful-ness marriage would bring,
I suddenly realized that I have no idea what it takes to be married.
My thoughts literally went like
this: So wait . . . if a wife is different from a girlfriend, then does that
mean she does different things? What type of things does she do? It can’t just
be that the wife has legal rights and the girlfriend doesn’t, or can it? How
does one even stay married for longer than 5 years?
For those of you who know me,
this pretty much instantly put me into panic mode. I immediately began to think,
“How can I ever get married, if I don’t even know what a wife does!?” This, of
course led me to harass my boyfriend to make a list of his ideas of what a wife
could be, in addition to researching and thinking of all of the women I could interview.
At some point, I realized that there is no “one” answer for what the difference
between a wife and girlfriend is.
Although in my opinion, a
girlfriend shouldn’t be doing everything a wife does and a wife should be
honored way more than a girlfriend. Anyways, with that, I came up with the type
of wife I want to be.
I want to be the type of wife
that doesn’t worry about her husband, because she’s confident in who she is an
secure in her relationship. I think what kind of wife I want to be, goes
hand-in-hand with what type of woman and mother I want to be. I want to serve.
I want to serve my family and those in need outside of them. I also want to
raise children who serve, and who understand the value of humility.
I want to be a blessing to my
husband. I want to make his life better, by me being in it. I want to continue
to be a hard worker. I want to be diligent and make sure that things are
provided for. I want to be a team mate. I want to huddle up to plan for the
future and make those hard decisions together.
I want to be a good cook. I don’t
always want to cook . . . but when I do, I want it to be amazing. I want to
keep things orderly and I want my family to follow suit. I want to contribute
and make smart investments. I never want to be in a position where I’m always
taking, but I want to know when my giving limit is dwindling.
I want to be a teacher and a
helper. I want to be myself. I want to be productive, creative, humorous, and
faithful. I want to be wise and trustworthy. I guess I want to be perfect.
And although I know that’s not
exactly realistic, I think the man I marry is going to be something short of
amazing.
